Surviving Myself A Journey from Suicidal to Happy

30Sep/100

Private Moment Made Public, Then a Fatal Jump

--Andy Grant, September 30, 2010

This sort of story, when someone is bullied and tormented to their breaking point, is happening all too frequently. To me, the bigger tragedy is that so many people are uncomfortable in their own skin; hiding themselves so much that the opinions and callousness of others can push them to end their life. First and foremost, you have to love yourself.

Deepak Chopra has a great mantra that has helped me: "I am totally independant of the good or bad opinion of others."

Suicide Follows Hurtful Postings on Web
www.nytimes.com
Tyler Clementi, a Rutgers student, committed suicide after two fellow students allegedly videotaped an intimate encounter and uploaded the tape to the Internet.

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Peace,
Andy -- andy@survivingmyselfbook.com

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28Sep/104

Love Yourself

--Andy Grant, September 28, 2010

Perhaps you’ve heard of the Denver Broncos wide receiver, Kenny McKinley? He was recovering from knee surgery and was placed on the injured reserve list, meaning he was going to miss the entire season, his second consecutive season cut short by injury. He loved football, his team, and his family, but I’m telling you he didn’t love himself. He saw himself as nothing but a football player. And with football gone, he became horribly depressed and shot himself on Sept. 20, 2010. He leaves behind distraught friends, fans and family, including a young son.

If you love anything more than you love yourself, you are at great risk of feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, and depressed. External sources of love can never fill you up if you don't feel love for yourself first. If you do find yourself in that dark, lonely hole of depression, KNOW that there is another way. There are options to end your pain. There are options and help to let you feel good again, good about yourself and life.

One positive aspect of Kenny's tragic tale is that people are talking. Sports in general, and the NFL in particular, are very tough places to be open about depression. But people are talking, people are sharing, people are surviving.

Sports journalist Woody Paige is one of those taking the courageous step of going public with their pain. Check out his thoughts: We must learn from McKinley's death.

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Peace,
Andy -- andy@survivingmyselfbook.com

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18Sep/106

Why?

--Andy Grant, September 18, 2010

I'm going to mix up this blog with written posts and videos. Here I take on the question I'm most frequently asked about suicide.

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10Sep/101

Don’t Wait Until You’re On The Edge of a Cliff

The Cliffs of Moher

The Cliffs of Moher

-- Andy Grant, September 10, 2010

Last week my wife and I vacationed in Ireland, and one of the most magnificent sites we visited were the Cliffs of Moher. The cliffs are on the west coast of Ireland and at their highest are over 700 feet tall. The Cliffs of Moher are Ireland's top tourist attraction with over one million visitors each year. Our guide told us sometimes the wind is so strong people have been blown right off. So along the national park portion of the cliffs there are now walls to keep tourists from getting too close to the edge. But the cliffs are much longer than the park is, so there are still many areas where you can get dangerously close. Sadly, this makes it a popular spot for suicides. There were a number of signs to call the Samaritans of Ireland (a suicide crisis hotline), but the tragic part is that there is no cell phone service in the area and no land lines at the cliffs either.Cliffs of Moher Memorial

Can you imagine being so distraught that you seek out this beautiful spot to end your life? At the last minute, while teetering on the edge, you wish you could reach someone to talk to, but you can't. There is a small memorial at the cliffs for those who've lost their lives there.

There is no reason for you to find yourself in such a situation, wavering between choosing life or death and with nobody to reach out to. You have lots of options for help. Use them.

I can tell you from personal experience, it feels so much better to gaze at nature's beauty from a cliff without thinking "should I jump or not?"

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Enjoy!
Andy -- andy@survivingmyselfbook.com

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9Sep/100

World Suicide Prevention Day

In the United States alone, a person dies by suicide every 16 minutes. September 10th is World Suicide Prevention Day, and you can make a difference.

Visit http://www.take5tosavelives.com/ to learn how. By taking 5 minutes to get involved and become informed, you will be part of a national movement to save lives. For a listing of local events near you, visit: http://www.suicidology.org/web/guest/about-aas/nspw/activities

**Take 5 To Save Lives is a project of the National Council for Suicide Prevention.

**If you, or someone you know, is in emotional distress or suicidal crisis please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8225)

The IASP is sponsoring a a new activity which anyone can do in support of: World Suicide Prevention Day, suicide prevention and awareness, survivors of suicide and for the memory of loved lost ones. It is called "Light a Candle on World Suicide Prevention Day at 8 PM."

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7Sep/101

Walk for Suicide Prevention

This Saturday September 11, I'll be taking part in a 2.5 mile community walk to raise funds and awareness for suicide prevention. The funds will go to See A New Sun (SANS) Foundation, which among other things distributes Signs of Suicide (SOS) kits to middle and high schools across Massachusetts. SANS also sponsors a survivors of suicide support group that I've been attending for the last year. You can learn more about SANS at http://4sans.org/.

If you would like to make a pledge, email me at andy@survivingmyselfbook.com and I'll give you the details on how to make a donation.

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6Sep/100

A Proclamation

--Andy Grant, September 6, 2010

I officially announce Surviving Myself: A Journey from Suicidal to Happy to the world.

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Enjoy,
Andy -- andy@survivingmyselfbook.com

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